As a seasoned foster parent of 9 months, I thought I'd share some tips for the newbies. :) You'd be amazed how much you can learn with 3 foster children, 2 birth mothers, and 6 caseworkers in 9 months.
1. If you don't have peace about a placement when it's offered, wait for peace from God. He will give it to you. Don't just jump at the chance to take any and every child, even though your heart may desire it. Pray about it with your spouse and seek God's will before giving an answer.
2. Document EVERYTHING. I cannot stress this enough. Initially I would email the caseworker and copy myself about every little thing, probably contributing to the demise of a couple of our caseworkers. lol You must remember that even though these kids and the outcome of their case is vitally important to you, many of these caseworkers are dealing with extreme situations regarding other children and most likely won't get back to you about a scraped knee or a dirty look from a bi…
This is such a great list, one that I didn't have when I first became a foster parent, so I wanted to share it with my readers. Thanks to the Foster Care and Adoptive Association of Oklahoma for providing it. A lot of workers, will most likely NOT know the answers to all of these questions, but hopefully they can get you contact info for someone who does. NEW PLACEMENTS - QUESTIONS FOSTER PARENTS SHOULD ASK Why is this child being placed?
What is the previous placement experience(s) of the child?
What is the child's legal status?
What is the family situation?
What is the plan for the child? Expected length of placement? (most probably will not know the answer to these questions upon initial placement)
What will my role as foster parent be in the reunification plan? (Should always be to support reunification in every way possible if adoptive placement, ask about mediated agreement visitation/contact with birth family)
What is the child's understanding of why he has been mov…
"Beloved, do not be amazed and bewildered at the fiery ordeal which is taking place to test your quality, as though something strange, unusual and alien to you and your position were befalling you. But insofar as you are sharing Christ’s sufferings, rejoice, so that when His glory, full of radiance and splendor, is revealed, you may also rejoice with triumph." 1 Peter 4:12-13
After my last post, I assumed the next big trial in our life would be Judah's passing. I was wrong. Our world was turned completely upside down when our house caught on fire because of an electrical malfunction on June 17. Seth had come home from work for an hour to let me go to a friend's house with 2 of the kids. After being there for 30 minutes, I got a call from Seth telling me that our house was on fire and he just climbed out of a window with Judah. I drove over as fast I could to pick up Judah and 5 of the other kids who had been swimming in the backyard when the fire started. Seth had s…